Dangit, I should have scanned the thread before I went searching for that link; it looks like Ivan beat me to it by an hour.
Yeah, this is very similar to questions that J.J. has asked here in the past, but I suppose there are a few things that come up here that aren’t exactly covered by the previous discussion. While I think we covered the ideas of ruined childhood/rule 34 pretty well before, the issue of society’s ideas about sexuality and kids’ exposure to it are very strange.
In particular, our society seems to want to shelter children from any sexuality until they’re 18 (which will invariably fail, sometimes with dire consequences) but has much less of a problem with violence. I think this is skewed; not that we shouldn’t have a problem with exposing kids to sex at too early of an age, but that (1) we have such a hard time figuring out what is age-appropriate sex education, (2) we reasonably expect our children to eventually experience sex on a first-hand basis (no fap jokes, please) and thus it is arguable that sexual information is something they need to know, and (3) being okay with violence makes very little sense when really, violence is not appropriate for any age.
Addressing these in turn from personal experience, my twin daughters, who have just turned nine, were recently begging me to have a tickle fight with them. For some reason they love that sort of thing, so I relented. However, one of my daughters made a few attempts to tickle me in an inappropriate area, and I had to stop the playing. They’re nine, so what do I say? What I chose to say was, “Sweetie, you need to understand something: it is not appropriate to tickle somebody on part of their body that’s covered up by underwear. Anywhere else is okay, but that part of a person’s body is only for them to touch. Nobody should touch me there, and nobody should touch you there, and if someone tries to, you should tell a grownup, and they will get in trouble.” At age nine, my daughters are too young to be sexual in any overt manner, but even still, that was a piece of knowledge that probably most children need at a very early age. Later I will tell them more, and so will their mother, but it’s my belief that children who have a loving and trusting relationship with their parents will always give signals to their parents when they need to know more.
The second point is where I think religion tends to come into the picture in the most obvious fashion. If a child is raised in a religious sect that looks at sex as dirty, then their parents will probably never talk to them about it, and they will go into marriage uninformed, confused, and probably even scared. While I know that such sects are often somewhere in the Christian continuum, the fact is that there are a lot of churches that have a more realistic and positive view of the matter. Did you know that even among the Puritans, there are records of men being disciplined by the church for not performing their “duties” to their wives? It’s Biblical, as said most explicitly in 1Cor.7:
Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.
In plain modern English, if you’re the sort of person who somehow never experiences lust, then you might as well stay single, because you’ll be free of the responsibility of a family, and can better serve your community (that last part from larger context than this short excerpt). If you do find yourself tempted with lust, then the best thing to do is find a spouse, have sex often, and if at all possible, never deny your spouse sexual pleasure. (See P.S.) This being Biblical, and really quite rational, I have actually prayed, even when my daughters were much younger, that they would grow up happy and healthy and someday find a good man that they could marry and have a good sex life with. Sex is one of God’s greatest gifts to humanity, I hate to see people get cheated from enjoying it to the fullest.
The third point is largely self-evident; at least I hope so. Generally, I frown on the idea of violence being used for entertainment, at least in a completely gratuitous manner. Specifically, I don’t like movies in which the main character enjoys violence for violence’s sake. If he/she is committing violent acts with a higher purpose in mind, I can deal with it better. However there is something to be said about letting people be educated to some extent in the nature of violence because it is, like it or not, part of our reality. I suppose we all know that there were a lot of people at the Dark Knight Rising premier who learned that in a way that nobody wants to.
P.S. Several years ago, the pastor of my church gave a sermon on that very passage and he asked the congregation a question. “If a husband wants to have sex three times a week, and the wife wants to have sex once a week, how many times per week should they be having sex? I hope you see clearly that the answer is not one, but don’t think you average it out to two either. Most people,after reading this passage think the answer is three, but I’m going to tell you that the answer is four: once for the wife, and three times for the husband, unless you’re some sort of miraculous couple that is in the mood at the same exact time.”