Oh boy where do we begin?
On a fairly good note, the other day I realised I was bi (◡‿◡✿)
Yeaaaah! One of my people! Welcome to the cool sexuality for cool people.
Please take your standard issue flag
If you need advice, you can ask me. But I don’t think you’ll have too much trouble “coping”. We don’t have a history of controversy surrounding us so coming out as Bi might not land you in too much of a scandal (So long as people recognize Bi as a sexuality anyway).
Being Bi can be a bit more confusing that just gay or straight. You’ve got more options to choose from and so will your sexuality which can start to do unexpected things.
The most confusing part of being Bi is ‘fluxuations’. I call them swings. You may notice some days you like men more, and some days you like women more. That’s normal. Don’t panic. You might also pick a “favorite” gender. Also normal. You can be a straight-leaning Bi or a gay-leaning Bi or value both equally
The hardest part of being Bi is really helping people understand that you are BI. Not a “half-gay”. Not a greedy bitch. Not a gay-in-denial. Not a gay-in-the-making. Not a promiscuous cheating slut etc etc
Was it scary when you realised you were LGBT? It was and still is a little bit for me ;-;
I didn’t find it scary, I just kinda rolled with it. It felt natural.
Letting the rest of my highly conservative staunch christian republican family know, however…that’s scary
wtf thought this was the kym let’s get burgers tonight thread???
Apparently not. But we can still go out and get burgers right?
I’ve inspected my sexuality for a long time now, and it still confuses me. I’d argue that everyone is even a tiny bit gay; hell, I can find another man attractive, I just don’t want his dick inside me.
Yup. The sexuality spectrum is very wide and you’ve got a good chance of not landing on the edges. And it’s easy for people to have slight bi-tendencies/curiosities and not realize it. Particularly if you are close to the edges (5% or 95% gay)
I thought I was straight most my life until a fling with a gay dude helped me realize that I was in fact Bi. I just hadn’t explored my own gay interests up until that point.
I used to repulse at cocks, now I love them. What happened is that I had sexual moralities blocking my sexual interests.
My interest in men was always there, in the background. Like yourself I would occasionally find another man attractive, but then I would fight the thoughts by thinking " I don’t want his dick inside me". I honestly never thought I would do it and I wretched at the thought thanks to my upbringing making me believe it was the devils handiwork
But once I stopped fighting it and stopped pretending that sodomy was gross, disgusting, ewww, I came to realize that I’m 100% comfortable with men.
My point is: you don’t know you’re bi until you give it a tri
You may be as well. You just need to experience it.
Also, I’m not so much attracted to “women” as much as I am “femininity.”
This is normal
I wouldn’t mind a relationship with a person that identified as a women and looked cute, even if she had a dick. So yeah, while I probably wouldn’t suck her dick, I wouldn’t mind a relationship with someone like that. Does that make me gay?
No it does not. You’re gay if you would rather that cute woman with a dick looked like a manly man with a dick and the idea of a woman totally disgusted you. THAT’s gay.
You’re talking about futa as mentioned earlier, and that’s something I know even straight people are into. The fact that you wouldn’t suck that cock makes you sound even more straight.
You just don’t have insecurities that make you feel as though the presence of dicks threaten your manly taste in women. Neither do you really equate sexual organs to gender. So you’re still interested in that feminine gender and see that added cock as just an interesting twist.
I’m somewhat gay, somewhat bisexual. My sexuality seems to fluctuate from time to time. On some days, I’m into guys and nothing else. On others, I’ll find myself inexplicably attracted to women again, though the attraction to men never really goes away. I think the best I can do is describe myself as a gay-leaning bisexual.
I know you, buddy. Gay-leaning bisexual is you. I have no doubts in my mind after all the stories you shared with me.
Fluctuations are all normal traits for bisexuals as I mentioned. We have our straight days and our gay days. But you’ll continue to be attracted to both genders, you just have periods where you decide you want to focus on just one. This is confusing at first but you get adjusted to it.
I’d disagree with that. Unfortunately, biphobia is pretty prevalent throughout the LGBT community.
He was talking about sexual experiences with both men and women. Best of both worlds indeed. I don’t think he was saying that bisexuality is the best. We do have our share of problems as you point out.
Bisexuality is still not well understood and now that it’s coming out more, people are making presumptions. People shouldn’t make it sound more complex than it is. We’re just normal people that can go both ways. This isn’t some agenda