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The Mortifying Ordeal of Being Known is part of a quote by author Tim Kreider in an essay he wrote for The New York Times. The full quote reads, "If we want the rewards of being loved we have to submit to the mortifying ordeal of being known," in essence arguing that to achieve deep relationships with others, one must bare the complexities and contradictory aspects of themselves they may not wish to share with the outside world. The quote became a meme on Tumblr, where it was used both sincerely and in shitposts.

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On June 15th, 2013, author Tim Kreider wrote a piece in the New York Times[1] relating a story about how he was accidentally CC'd on an email by someone disapproving of his goats. He then discusses the anxiety about knowing what others think of one behind one's back, and transitions into positing that it is still possible, and perhaps even necessary, to love someone despite their flaws. He writes, "THE operative fallacy here is that we believe that unconditional love means not seeing anything negative about someone, when it really means pretty much the opposite: loving someone despite their infuriating flaws and essential absurdity." He then concludes with the phrase, "if we want the rewards of being loved we have to submit to the mortifying ordeal of being known."

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On April 17th, 2018, Tumblr user 1dietcokeinacan[2] posted the quote in all-caps. On July 3rd, Tumblr user deadpanwalking[3] reblogged the post with the "Running Dad" comic. The post has gained over 264,000 notes (shown below).

1dietcokeinacan IF WE WANT THE REWARDS OF BEING LOVED WE MUST SUBMIT TO THE MORTIFYING ORDEAL OF BEING KNOWN!!!

Over the following year, others began making jokes centered around the quote. On November 8th, 2018, Tumblr user tieflinggay[4] posted a No Take, Only Throw variation about the quote, gaining over 36,000 notes (shown below, left). On February 23rd, 2019, Tumblr user stuffedgrapeleaves[5] posted a Parks and Recreation edit with the quote, gaining over 23,000 notes (shown below, right).

tieflinggay: the dog throw/take comic but it's "rewards of being loved??? NO! no mortifying ordeal of being known!! ONLY rewards of being loved!!!" rewards of being Pls loved?? mortifying NO ordeal of being ONLY rewards of being loved known
IT'S ABOUT THE mortifying ordeal of being known

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experience the Did you rewards of being loved Yes. the mortifying ordeal of being known What did it cost?
Apprentice: IF WE WANT THE REWARDS OF BEING LOVED WE MUST SUBMIT TO THE MORTIFYING ORDEAL OF BEING KNOWN!!! Asra: asra, stuffing faust in his sash: Ihave to ge on a journey right now immediately Source: deadpanwalking
the mortifying ordeal of being known

bro you just SUBMITTED TO THE MORTIFYING ORDEAL OF BEING KNOWN! you are gonna BE LOVED !
uind BY FLEETWOO0 Wait, you guys are getting the rewards of being loved?

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[1] New York Times – I Know What You Think of Me

[2] Tumblr – 1dietcokeinacan

[3] Tumblr – deadpanwalking

[4] Tumblr (via Wayback Machine) – tieflinggay

[5] Tumblr – stuffedgrapeleaves



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About

The Mortifying Ordeal of Being Known is part of a quote by author Tim Kreider in an essay he wrote for The New York Times. The full quote reads, "If we want the rewards of being loved we have to submit to the mortifying ordeal of being known," in essence arguing that to achieve deep relationships with others, one must bare the complexities and contradictory aspects of themselves they may not wish to share with the outside world. The quote became a meme on Tumblr, where it was used both sincerely and in shitposts.

Origin

On June 15th, 2013, author Tim Kreider wrote a piece in the New York Times[1] relating a story about how he was accidentally CC'd on an email by someone disapproving of his goats. He then discusses the anxiety about knowing what others think of one behind one's back, and transitions into positing that it is still possible, and perhaps even necessary, to love someone despite their flaws. He writes, "THE operative fallacy here is that we believe that unconditional love means not seeing anything negative about someone, when it really means pretty much the opposite: loving someone despite their infuriating flaws and essential absurdity." He then concludes with the phrase, "if we want the rewards of being loved we have to submit to the mortifying ordeal of being known."

Spread

On April 17th, 2018, Tumblr user 1dietcokeinacan[2] posted the quote in all-caps. On July 3rd, Tumblr user deadpanwalking[3] reblogged the post with the "Running Dad" comic. The post has gained over 264,000 notes (shown below).


1dietcokeinacan IF WE WANT THE REWARDS OF BEING LOVED WE MUST SUBMIT TO THE MORTIFYING ORDEAL OF BEING KNOWN!!!

Over the following year, others began making jokes centered around the quote. On November 8th, 2018, Tumblr user tieflinggay[4] posted a No Take, Only Throw variation about the quote, gaining over 36,000 notes (shown below, left). On February 23rd, 2019, Tumblr user stuffedgrapeleaves[5] posted a Parks and Recreation edit with the quote, gaining over 23,000 notes (shown below, right).


tieflinggay: the dog throw/take comic but it's "rewards of being loved??? NO! no mortifying ordeal of being known!! ONLY rewards of being loved!!!" rewards of being Pls loved?? mortifying NO ordeal of being ONLY rewards of being loved known IT'S ABOUT THE mortifying ordeal of being known

Various Examples


experience the Did you rewards of being loved Yes. the mortifying ordeal of being known What did it cost? Apprentice: IF WE WANT THE REWARDS OF BEING LOVED WE MUST SUBMIT TO THE MORTIFYING ORDEAL OF BEING KNOWN!!! Asra: asra, stuffing faust in his sash: Ihave to ge on a journey right now immediately Source: deadpanwalking the mortifying ordeal of being known


bro you just SUBMITTED TO THE MORTIFYING ORDEAL OF BEING KNOWN! you are gonna BE LOVED ! uind BY FLEETWOO0 Wait, you guys are getting the rewards of being loved?

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External References

[1] New York Times – I Know What You Think of Me

[2] Tumblr – 1dietcokeinacan

[3] Tumblr – deadpanwalking

[4] Tumblr (via Wayback Machine) – tieflinggay

[5] Tumblr – stuffedgrapeleaves

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