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Dave from boyinaband - over a decade of abuse underneath an almost perfect public persona Content warning Dear Fans of Dave from Boyinaband. First of all, thank you for your time and understanding. We want you to know that we intended and tried to handle this as privately and as quietly as possible. Some time ago, a group of his ex-partners wrote a letter to his family in hopes of stopping the outgoing pattern of abuse. Below, you can read that letter. We know there were more victims of his in the past and if you're one of them, and we didn't find you before - message us. All we want to do is to tell you that you're not alone and that none of it was your fault. Thank you. "Dear Brown family, friends and fans of Dave from boyinaband We apologize for contacting you this way. We are a group of girls who knew and dated David in real life for (depending on the person) 1-6 years. Some of us met some of you personally. We know you love David and want to see him as a good person and a role model. We were also the people who once loved him and cared about him deeply. We understand that you want to see him happy. Still, decades of enabling his abusive behavior have led to many horrific and dangerous situations that included years of lies, manipulations, and emotional, financial, physical, and even sexual abuse of many young girls. As you know, David is now a 35yo polyamorous man with over a decade of provable history of dating girls much younger than him, including his highly gullible, obsessive, young fans. As you know, he once dated Rachel, who was 17 when he was 23. Rachel was a fan of his band and fell in love with him when she was just 15yo. David ended up hitting her and telling that to at least two of his future girlfriends (which we can also prove). Let us add that this relationship in many countries would be considered as p---------. There are two videos on his channel that include 17yo Rachel. In one, he brags about waking up next to her. In the second, he makes her sing a song with the following lyrics: "Take me without my consent" (everything is below). He has a pattern of preying on his young fans - after they admire him and write to him on his social media, he starts to date them. He then tells them how much he loves them ->, that they are replaceable, and finally discards them for new ones as soon as they disagree or refuse to do whatever he wants. Most of those encounters include him renting an Airbnb to be with those girls for a few weeks, then discarding them. We know this is difficult for you to read, but it needs to be said. He also has a provable p--- addiction that includes him being attracted to pre-teenage girls, women who dress to look like children, abusive p---, and assaults. He's a hebephile. It's sickening. Especially considering that he dedicated his career to "helping" struggling young people, and ended up harming many of them. Many of his past partners ended up in years of therapy due to the trauma caused by David. He has a pattern of dating and sleeping with a specific group of girls - younger (most of his recent girlfriends were 10 or more years younger than him), over whom he has power and control, and who are never his equals. What we mean by that is young, poor girls, often students with no big careers yet, whom he can impress by his "success" and money. He exclusively chooses girls with a vast gap in money and influence so he can manipulate and mold them. Most of them were too scared to speak about it due to this reason. His preferences also include a physical superiority over his partners - looking very young, pre-adolescent, usually very skinny, and if not, he encourages them to lose weight, calling them lazy and disgusting. That's from a man who made a song with Jaiden Animations to "help" girls with anorexia. He coerced multiple young girls into being polyamorous, even if it was something they had never considered before him. He advertises it as a superior way of living which is highly inappropriate if not abusive. He tells his partners that they're replaceable, disappears if they don't do everything he wants, and treats them with zero empathy. They mean nothing to him outside of his pleasure, his wants, and his entertainment. When girls want to leave, he either blocks them before they can confront him or uses his depression and suicidality as cards to force them to stay until he gets bored of them. He uses his depression to control girls by justifying why he treats them like garbage or playing the victim card. He refuses to take any personal responsibility and accountability for how cruel, vindictive, callous, hurtful, and abusive he is. If you ever wondered why years of therapy never really helped him, it's because he cannot face who he really is, and he's unable to take ownership of the things he did, painting himself in bright light in front of his therapists. Over the last few years, he repeatedly mixed his medications (including antidepressants/ADHD medication with whiskey and weed). He used, abused, and left so many girls that he could, at this point, write an alphabet from the first letters of their names. Please remember - he advertises himself as a male feminist to the entire world - while in reality, he is an abuser of multiple young girls. He acts similarly with his friends - treating them badly, as replaceable. Lying about them to make himself look good or to get what he wants. For example, when after having no contact for more than a decade with his bandmates, out of the blue, he tweeted that they used to ignore his self-harm which was a lie (confirmed and confronted by his bandmates on twitter and on reddit years ago). Darren admitted that they talked after, and both apologized, but Dave never acknowledged that and left that tweet on his frontpage for almost two years now - sending his Twitter mob on his past friends who have normal lives, and Dave got thousands of sympathy tweets from young girls that strongly relate to the problem of self-harm. He does things like that to get attention and pity all the time. Again, we are sorry that you had to read it. We are not his "haters", not witchhunters, and not strangers. We don't want anything. We're not interested in being associated with him in any way. All we want to do is to warn his young fans about what can happen to them. Like you, we used to care about him. But he has to be stopped. Ours and yours enabling of this has to stop. He needs to face himself and meet the responsibility for the people he hurt before even more young girls get severely damaged, which they will then carry for the rest of their lives. Depression cannot be used as an excuse to treat people this way. Treating any human being this way is inexcusable. Nobody has been left by him unharmed. Below, you can find a little bit of proof of how he treated people, confirmed and proven by multiple of his ex-girlfriends and friends that he had hurt and replaced over the years. We know that you care about the persona he made for himself on the internet. We know you just want him to be happy. But he's not happy, he destroys people. He's an abuser, a groomer, a hebephile. We know this is hard. We never wanted to do this but what about those girls? What about future ones? They're people. This needs to stop, he needs to be stopped, please. Sincerely, What started as 5 girls is now way in the double digits P.S. Let this be a lesson about romanticizing those who are mentally ill, especially with a young audience. We think and talk about depression when someone is sad all the time or suicidal. We never talk about the ugly parts of it. Of how people like that can be manipulative, abusive, and can hurt people. And the voices of those they hurt along the way also need to be heard, and this pattern of behavior needs to stop. If we can stop just one girl from ending up hurt, I'll sleep better at night. Please do the same. Thank you.

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INTERNET ARCHIVE http://davidpaulbrown.com/30-11-09-that-girl-is-my-indie-cindie-shes-not-actually-indie-though-or-called-cindie/ Wayback Machine 4 captures 9 Dec 2009 - 17 Dec 2009 30-11-09- That girl is my Indie Cindie (She's not actually Indie though. Or called Cindie.) What's happened then? - - Got a Girlfriend - Had my sampler break O_O - Supported Hadouken! - Got "Dragon Age" and completed it. - Tried out Google Wave! - Made a ton of guitar tone tutorial videos David's got a Girlfriend! I'll try not to make this soppy, since I know I wouldn't want to read several paragraphs of someone obsessing over the new love interest in their life. I'm now with a girl called Rachel. It's kinda cool how we met - it's through YAWA. You see, she saw me play the "Generation: Summer Slam" show maybe 2 years ago at the Wulfrun Hall. Maybe a year later, she decided to come see YAWA play live at the little civic with a few friends... Soon after that show, she sent me a message on myspace and we got talking. We talked quite a lot over the coming months and she came to a lot of shows. We became pretty good friends, and that friendship was consolidated when I went to her birthday party this year. We began hanging out in real life and became close friends. A few days ago (the day before the Hadouken show, in fact) I asked her to be my girlfriend, and Categories Personal (29) Archives November 2009 October 2009 August 2009 July 2009 June 2009 May 2009 April 2009 March 2009 M Archives T W 1 2 7 8 9 14 15 16 December 2009 T 3 10 17 18 FSS 4 5 6 13 19 20 11 12 Tags 6 Ta
INTERNET ARCHIVE http://davidpaulbrown.com/19-04-09-hi-are-you-dave-from-biab-mexbarrow-again/ Wayback Machine 1 capture 30 Sep 2015 But yes, after the post-show chatting with fans, some people get all of us sleeping in the coldest room imagineable on 8 cha makeshift bed (Resourceful, huh?), we ate our traditional Barrow Morissons breakfast and headed home. We ended up getting back at like 8:30pm the following day. An eventful weekend indeed. Rachie week! I got to spend a whole week with my favourite YAWA fan (Oh, and also my girlfriend) Rachie last week! It entailed many things, but let's start with the Mountain walk/picnic! I say mountain walk, that was just to get your attention. It was a place called Hawkstone Park and it was great fun. We trekked through caves, to the top of a ridiculously tall tower (Where I couldn't help but imagine what would happen if some random guy threw Rachie off and she landed on the spikey fence below is that a healthy, normal thing to think?) and over tiny bridges that wouldn't seem out of place in an action movie that finds itself crossing a cravass in the jungle at some point. We had. a picnic of innocent smoothies, french read doritos much jolliness was So what else... ah, Shutter Island! Terrifying movie, even though I guess it technically wasn't a horror film. It was just so intense, the music built up tension so well. Loved the twist at the end, definitely a film to see if you like psychological thrillers. Lastly, the skins audition. Rachie was uncomfortable asking me to drive her, since she's the kind of person that doesn't like me to buy things for her since it makes her guilty, but I forced her to go to the audition for Skins series 4 in Bristol.
INTERNET ARCHIVE http://davidpaulbrown.com/30-11-09-that-girl-is-my-indie-cindie-shes-not-actually-indie-though-or-called-cindie/ Wayback Machine 4 captures 9 Dec 2009 - 17 Dec 2009 gamer but she tried playing Heroes V and either she enjoys it or and she's motivated to actually do things with her life. It's not all similar though she's really into fashion (If you know me you'll probably also know that my fashion sense consists of whatever's on the top of the pile, plus a lab coat.) and enjoys her hollyoaks (eugh...), I guess it goes to show the whole "opposites attract theory works on occasion So yes, I'm considerably happier than I have been in a long time. Even though she can watch "The X Factor" with a straight face, I feel we are really good together. It's awesome. Yay Okay, it's getting too soppy. I'll leave it there. Bitches ain't shiiiii'. CRAPCRAPCRAPCRAP The title reflects what ran through my head when a few days before the Hadouken show, my sampler decided not to work. Lovely. After literally hours of trying to fix it, I narrowed it down to the flash card that I store the songs onto as being the problem. A trip to PC world and £50 later, I held what eventually became the key to my salvation. A key with also sped things up since it was about 3 times faster than the previous flash card. Loading times are much smaller between songs now, score! Funny how things work out, eh?
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