When I said "exactly" what I was implying was "yeah, if you accept the possibility of a hypothetical bizarro (by our standards) kind of life, the chances are even greater by many orders of magnitude".
"As you say, billions out there, no signs of life so far, so obviously somethingās missing."
Whoa whoa whoa whoa whoa. Whoa. Just what kind of "signs" were you hoping for?
Here, let me put this in perspective. This is the most detailed image we've been able to capture of Pluto, from only four days ago.
Credit goes to the New Horizons spacecraft, which was only able to accomplish this scientists-shitting-pants level achievement because it's gotten really damn close.
Pluto is about 6.088 Ć 10^-4 light years away from Earth. How about Alpha Centauri, the closest non-Sun star to us (which likely doesn't even have a planet orbiting it- it's a point of heated debate, which is certainly illuminating in itself)?
4.367 light years. That's more than seven thousand times farther.
And the fact is, "taking a look" is about the only method we currently have of determining the presence of life on an exoplanet.
As for the whole "element" business, I really don't think you know what that word means. It only refers to a type of atom with a certain number of protons in the neucleus, i.e. it's atomic number. And as you can see, we've got them categorized from 1 (hydrogen) to 118- the last few on the list only known from the results of extreme atom-bombarding in huge laboratories and only existing in that state for an unfathomably tiny fraction of a second due to intense instability.