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I’m getting tired of all these lonely fuckers trying so desperately to find a girlfriend like it’s the only thing that’s matters in life. Don’t get me wrong, we as a species desire companionship and considering what’s happening now we need it more than ever. However, I’ve seen a lot of cases where folks create the idealistic idea of gf that it creates a massive high standard that can never be met. There’s a reasons why incels are so commonplace now, once they realize such being cannot exist.

Like, get a dog or a cat or some shit. At least they won’t judge you.

i do though

i agree on this, you can live a happy, satisfied life without anyone else.

and before you say "cope" look up the bhikkhus. they've let go of all desire and instead focus on achieving nirvana. i'm not saying you need to become religious, i'm saying that there's more to life than romance and obsessing over the perfect qt 3.14 gf

I disagree slightly. You need a significant something in your life to live for. Something that pushes you to make be the best you can be. Otherwise you're just coasting.

It's called companionship, sooner or later the "is my life even worth it" thought is going pop up in your mind

>However, I’ve seen a lot of cases where folks create the idealistic idea of gf that it creates a massive high standard that can never be met.
Are you actually offended by the Ideal GF meme?

>Like, get a dog or a cat or some shit. At least they won’t judge you.
Bit of a phrasing there lol

So don't push this into a male only problem, femcels exist in this planet, thank you

what if your pet breaks up with you? ;_;

Meant to upvote, damn these tiny-ass forum buttons.

I'd like to add on this thought: you do need something to keep going for in life, but don't rely on one thing alone. Especially if that something is ultimately temporary or that you need reciprocal attention for, like another living being. Otherwise you'll have nothing to turn to if, or when, that one thing no longer gives you joy. Speaking as someone who's been in that situation not too long ago, I'd make sure to have however many failsafes necessary to keep going.

it’s telling how I can instantly know which threads were made by you just from the titles

"You don’t fucking need a significant other to be happy in life"
- Someone who obviously isn't very happy in life.

Your post history is starting to look like r/braincels just have sex already and stop subjecting us to these threads.

"Like, get a dog or a cat or some shit. At least they won’t judge you."

I agree with you, though. However, I'm worried that if I get too old and am still stuck with having pets for companionship I might become the male equivalent of the crazy cat lady trope.

Sounds to me like you're trying to convince yourself.

There are many different paths on the road to fulfillment.

Some people seek happiness in interpersonal relationships, others in the acceptance in a certain community or group, some people might even seek fulfillment in earning recognition from an internet forum or meme website. Some people get really invested in upvotes.

Anything to reach self-actualization.

Depends on the person
I do but I've accepted it ain't ever gonna happen, so I'm at peace

but you already have a bun

my bun doesn't like cuddles 😔

Sure, some people don't. As Smol Nozomi noted, they can perfectly be content to either live in solitude, as bhikkhus or monks, or something along those lines. Those are however a slim minority. The vast majority of people across all ages and cultures seek partnerships for life.

Ideal gf memes are just that, idealisations. I doubt that many people unironically expect their potential partner to resemble some perfect imagination. I'm quite confident that most people looking for a significant other are ready to compromise and settle for a less than ideal partner – after all we all have our faults and weaknesses, and if we were too picky about everything in life we would come to nothing.

A cat or dog seems like a poor substitute for a significant other. Sure, it might give you a semblance of companionship and genuinely love you, but its more like taking care of a toddler that will never grow up rather than living together with another, equal person that you deeply care about, that cares about you and with which you can share your experiences in life, to which you can offer support and find solace in troubling times.

Also, as Sanakan pointed out, at some point you might ponder the "is my life even worth it?" question. That is to question what you live and work for, what for you put effort into anything you do. To consume and satisfy one's own desires in a hedonistic sense is hardly fulfilling, and most people don't have a passion project or amazing career from which they can draw self-affirmation. Having a partner and family to take care of can be a good motivator for people to keep on going, since they see they're working towards the well-being and growth of their loved ones. What can a forever-alone work towards?

Rabbits don’t seem to often, my sister had four and only one of them likes it

But the "You" on the title is relative to each person. Maybe you, specifically, need no significant other and, assuming that is true and not just a coping mechanism, I understand and respect it: I am the same way myself, at least for now. But others will not think the same, and that is fine too.

The need for romantic companionship is not a weakness if it is not desperate and/or destructive towards one or both partners. After all, that idea and social custom is what brought most of us onto the world to begin with. You cannot really argue against those results using only personal persective and experience.

It's highly dependent on the person, some want another person, some don't, personally I am fine with this tub of ice cream.

You don’t need a significant other to be happy in life

But it helps.

pointless thread ever, complaining a bout stuff 'you don't care'