Where Did The 'I'm Processing The Most Triggering Breakup I've Had In Nine Years' Clip Come From? Tammy Chow's TikTok Meltdown Explained

In 2023, one woman's somewhat misguided attempt to share how she has been coping with a recent breakup piqued the interest of other internet users, many of whom reacted less than kindly to her unconventional coping mechanisms. Tammy Chow took to her TikTok account in May 2023, showing how she has been spending her vacation with her parents while processing the most triggering breakup she's had in "nine years."

But not everyone understood Chow AKA @somaticspirit's decision to set up her camera and record herself having a hissy fit on her bed, with many taking the clip out of the little context provided and making their own videos mocking it. Here's a look into where the video of the woman shaking her limbs and screaming in bed comes from, and why it has been turned into a meme online.

Where Does The Video Of The Woman 'Processing Her Most Triggering Breakup In Nine Years' Come From?

On May 26th, 2023, TikToker and "Trauma Healing" coach Tammy Chow posted a video about how she has been coping with her separation from her long-term partner. The video begins with Chow showing herself shaking and screaming in her bed and continues to show her embarking on a preplanned trip with her parents.

@somaticspirit Bracing from my dad’s incessant, unnecessary urgency, my mom filling every silence with mindless conversation, and the panicked freeze happening in my body after a fresh breakup, I spent the first half of this trip screaming on the inside while wearing a dead-pan resting bitch face on the outside. My body felt like it was closing in on itself more each day, until I allowed the earth to take my pain away. Knowing how to work with energy in my body helped me transform from suffering through the trip to using it as a container to practice staying with myself and being in my experience, so I could stop performing to meet everyone else’s needs. There are still spots open in my program Awakening the Wild Woman where we get to practice these thriving strategies in an intimate healing group container. Apply in the link in my bio. ☺️ I will be having more discovery calls for this group next week! … #somatichealing #somatics #somatictherapy #nervoussystemregulation #nervoussystem #somaticexperiencing #traumahealing #trauma #freeze #polyvagaltheory #innerchildhealing #innerchildrherapy #innerchild #therapy ♬ A sad but beautiful chorus like a church funeral – Kurippertronixxx

The jarring cut between Tammy's clip of her convulsing in bed and her going on a vacation with her parents raised eyebrows on TikTok, with many wondering if the opening clip was "clickbait" or even necessary.

How Did People React To Tammy Chow's Video?

Soon after Chow's clip went viral, TikToker @sophiaacsta stitched the original video saying that she herself would never share a reaction as extreme as that with other people, while TikToker @casio_figueroa posted a clip showing the possible "Behind The Scenes" version of Chow's videos,

@sophiaacsta #stitch with @Tammy Chow | Trauma Healing ♬ A sad but beautiful chorus like a church funeral – Kurippertronixxx

@casio_figueroa #stitch with @Tammy Chow | Trauma Healing this app is so strange sometimes #fyp ♬ A sad but beautiful chorus like a church funeral – Kurippertronixxx

Other internet users took a more straightforward approach to mocking Chow, as seen in a post by X user @glamdemon2004, who joked about Chow's "process" being similar to how she feels when a "hot guy on the train gets off at his stop."

Me when the hot guy on the train gets off at his stop pic.twitter.com/49rzr8eyy2

— youngest known hag (@glamdemon2004) June 7, 2023

How Did Tammy Chow React To The Backlash Against Her Video?

On June 17th, 2023, Tammy Chow posted a video acknowledging that the clip of her convulsing in bed was in fact a re-enactment of how she actually processes difficult emotions. Chow says, "It didn't feel authentic to actually take out my camera during a time which I'm going through an extreme panic attack," adding "I… go through my process and then reenact it so that I can share my story."

@somaticspirit Replying to @⏧ #cyberbullyingawareness #traumahealing #healingjourney #trauma #cptsd #cptsdawareness #somatichealing #somatictherapy #somatiktok #innerchildhealing ♬ Emotional – Sallandu

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For the full history of "I'm processing the most triggering breakup I've had in nine years," be sure to check out Know Your Meme's encyclopedia entry for more information.