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Marriage Taught One Man About Feminism As I write this, my children are asleep in their room, Loretta Lynn is on the stereo, and my wife is out on a date with a man named Paulo. It's her second date this week; her fourth this month so far. If it goes like the others, she'l come home in the middle of the night, crawl into bed beside me, and tell me all about how she and Paulo had sex. I won't explode with anger or seethe with resentment. Ill tell her it's a hot story and I'm glad she had fun. It's hot because she's excited, and I'm glad because I'm a Before my wife started sleeping with other men, I certainly considered myself a feminist, but I really only understood it in the abstract. When I quit working to stay at home with the kids, I began to understand it on a coping with the withering drudgery of child-rearing. Now that I understand the reality of that situation, I don't blame women fo themselves than the life of the housewife. Still, as a man, I could, if I wanted to, portray what I'm doing as work and thus claim for myself the prestige men traditionally derive from work."Whenever I tell someone I stay home with the kids, they invariably say, "Hardest work in the world. They say this because the only way to account for a man at home with the kids is to say what he's doing is hard work. But there's a subtest in the compliment that malkes it backhanded We both know no one ever says it to a woman. Mothers care tathers provide care. The difference is crucial. Despite my total withdrawal economy and the traditional sources of still argueI In this way, my masculine self-image was stretched but not broken. Diaper bag one evening that she'd kissed another man and liked it and wanted to do more than kiss next time that I realized how my status as a Man depended on a single fact: that my wife f----- only me. I was still a Man. It wasn't until my wife mentioned When people ask how it started, I say this: We married young. She'd had sex before me, but only with a handful of people a handful of times. She never had a boyfriend, never had a lover. I was the first man she ever had the chance to get to know intimately. By her mid-30s, having already had our children and entering her sexual prime, she felt keenly her lack of sexual experience. Happily for me, she was willing to talk about it, willing to ask if I'd be open to exploring other options. We opened a bottle of wine and started talking, and talking, and talking She didn't present it as an issue of feminism to me, but after much soul why the idea of my with other men s-studies major about it patriarchal oppression essentially boils down to a man's fear that a woman with sexual agency is a intellect or their spirit or their ability to bear children. We are afraid that when it comes time for sex, they won't choose us. This petty fear has led us as a culture to place judgments on the entire spectrum of female sexual expression: If a woman likes sex, she's a ㆌ ore and a slut; if she only likes sex with her husband or boyfriend, she's boring and lame; if she doesn't like sex at all, she's frigid and unfeeling. Every option is a trap. can't control. We aren't afraid of their Feminism always comes back to sex, even when we 're talking about everything else. The point isn't that all women should be sexual The point is that it should be women who choose, not men- even the men they're married to. For my wife, the choice between honoring our vows and fulfilling her desires was a false choice, another trap. She knew how deep our love was, and knew that her wanting a variety of sexual experiences as we traveled through life together would not diminish or disrupt that love. It took me about six months many long, intense conversations, and an ocean of red wine before I knew it, too. When my wife told me she wanted to open our marriage and take other t rejecting me, she was That was two years ago, and today we've never been happier, more in tune, t I tell everyone it works for us. How does it work? We take turns going out. Because we have small children (ages 6 and 3), one of us stays home. (We don't like to use out at worTy hooking up with others and, yes, I too enjoy sexual carte blanche. I just don't use mine as much as my wife uses hers. What's important is equality of opportunity, not was an easy transition. It does work both How does it feel? It feels great... mostly, Most of the time, it feels like a mature, responsible way to address our needs and desires within our loving, mutually supportive marriage. It feels very adult, especially because it depends on open, honest communication. We take great pride in all the talling we married because they don't want to get divorced, and hearing it always do. I meet a are cutting themselves off from the of the magic that happens when two people share their lives. People don't can't stand sharing anymore; they divorce because they feel lilke they cant share enough. I never forget that my wife is a whole are together, we're not one. Too often people get trapped in the roles of husband and wife, and a gulf opens between what they think they should be and who they really are. Opening our marriage bas allowed us to close I call wife" is the same person my wife sees in the mirror. Lying to each other begins with lying to yourself, and now we don't have to lie to anyone. Recently, my wife went on a date and fell asleep at his apartment. I hadnt heard from her since 10 p.m, she still wasn't home at 6 a.m. My texts went unanswered and my calls went to voicemail. A tight knot of dread lodged in my stomach as I imagined all kinds of dire scenarios and realized that I not only didn't know where she was,I had no idea whom she was with. I pictured myself goin名to the police saying, "I think she's in Red Hook with a guy named Ryan. I don't know his last name, but I think he's a graphic designer?" Im not sure there's actually a word for the unique blend of acute terror and unforgivable shame I felt that morning imagining that Id lost my wife to Ryan, the maybe graphie designer. When she finally texted me at 7:30 am relief coursed through me like morphine. She wrote, I replied, "Just glad you're ok, but next time, no radio silence. Remember: you're not alone. What surprises most people is when I tell them it's not the sex-with-other- men that bothers me. The sex is the easy part, the fun part. It's what the sex connects to, stands for, reveals that can be difficult. I don't want her to fall in love with anyone else, and every time she goes on a date, I confront the possibálity that she might. It happened at the beginning:The first person she dated after we opened up fell hard in love with ber, and my wife, overwhelmed by his ardor, tried to love him back. Watching it happen, I was confused, angry, and terrified that she wanted to leave me She assured me she didn't, and whatever feelings she had for him didnt lessen what she felt for me. Believing her then was the ultimate trust exercise. We survived because eventually I did blieve her, and also This has been the great challenge of my open marriage: to draw strength from vulnerability. Doing so requires supreme self-confidence. You must first love is built. From everywhere comes the message that what I'm doing is for weaklings, losers, failures, p------; that if I had money and status, I could keep my wife "in line"; that her of my self-esteem. My open marriage has made heavy demands on my ability to silence the voice of doubt in my head, that gnawing feeling of worthlessness. But I find I can meet those demands, and that I am able to all possess. I'm grateful to my wife for pushing us to take this leap, and whatever happens to us in the future I would do it all again. And when she comes home tonight and crawls into bed beside me with a hot story about her date with Paulo, she'll do it all again, too. n upon which al the other ny more than the basic dignity we

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Marriage Taught One Man About Feminism As I write this, my children are asleep in their room, Loretta Lynn is on the stereo, and my wife is out on a date with a man named Paulo. It's her second date this week; her fourth this month so far. If it goes like the others, she'l come home in the middle of the night, crawl into bed beside me, and tell me all about how she and Paulo had sex. I won't explode with anger or seethe with resentment. Ill tell her it's a hot story and I'm glad she had fun. It's hot because she's excited, and I'm glad because I'm a Before my wife started sleeping with other men, I certainly considered myself a feminist, but I really only understood it in the abstract. When I quit working to stay at home with the kids, I began to understand it on a coping with the withering drudgery of child-rearing. Now that I understand the reality of that situation, I don't blame women fo themselves than the life of the housewife. Still, as a man, I could, if I wanted to, portray what I'm doing as work and thus claim for myself the prestige men traditionally derive from work."Whenever I tell someone I stay home with the kids, they invariably say, "Hardest work in the world. They say this because the only way to account for a man at home with the kids is to say what he's doing is hard work. But there's a subtest in the compliment that malkes it backhanded We both know no one ever says it to a woman. Mothers care tathers provide care. The difference is crucial. Despite my total withdrawal economy and the traditional sources of still argueI In this way, my masculine self-image was stretched but not broken. Diaper bag one evening that she'd kissed another man and liked it and wanted to do more than kiss next time that I realized how my status as a Man depended on a single fact: that my wife f----- only me. I was still a Man. It wasn't until my wife mentioned When people ask how it started, I say this: We married young. She'd had sex before me, but only with a handful of people a handful of times. She never had a boyfriend, never had a lover. I was the first man she ever had the chance to get to know intimately. By her mid-30s, having already had our children and entering her sexual prime, she felt keenly her lack of sexual experience. Happily for me, she was willing to talk about it, willing to ask if I'd be open to exploring other options. We opened a bottle of wine and started talking, and talking, and talking She didn't present it as an issue of feminism to me, but after much soul why the idea of my with other men s-studies major about it patriarchal oppression essentially boils down to a man's fear that a woman with sexual agency is a intellect or their spirit or their ability to bear children. We are afraid that when it comes time for sex, they won't choose us. This petty fear has led us as a culture to place judgments on the entire spectrum of female sexual expression: If a woman likes sex, she's a ㆌ ore and a slut; if she only likes sex with her husband or boyfriend, she's boring and lame; if she doesn't like sex at all, she's frigid and unfeeling. Every option is a trap. can't control. We aren't afraid of their Feminism always comes back to sex, even when we 're talking about everything else. The point isn't that all women should be sexual The point is that it should be women who choose, not men- even the men they're married to. For my wife, the choice between honoring our vows and fulfilling her desires was a false choice, another trap. She knew how deep our love was, and knew that her wanting a variety of sexual experiences as we traveled through life together would not diminish or disrupt that love. It took me about six months many long, intense conversations, and an ocean of red wine before I knew it, too. When my wife told me she wanted to open our marriage and take other t rejecting me, she was That was two years ago, and today we've never been happier, more in tune, t I tell everyone it works for us. How does it work? We take turns going out. Because we have small children (ages 6 and 3), one of us stays home. (We don't like to use out at worTy hooking up with others and, yes, I too enjoy sexual carte blanche. I just don't use mine as much as my wife uses hers. What's important is equality of opportunity, not was an easy transition. It does work both How does it feel? It feels great... mostly, Most of the time, it feels like a mature, responsible way to address our needs and desires within our loving, mutually supportive marriage. It feels very adult, especially because it depends on open, honest communication. We take great pride in all the talling we married because they don't want to get divorced, and hearing it always do. I meet a are cutting themselves off from the of the magic that happens when two people share their lives. People don't can't stand sharing anymore; they divorce because they feel lilke they cant share enough. I never forget that my wife is a whole are together, we're not one. Too often people get trapped in the roles of husband and wife, and a gulf opens between what they think they should be and who they really are. Opening our marriage bas allowed us to close I call wife" is the same person my wife sees in the mirror. Lying to each other begins with lying to yourself, and now we don't have to lie to anyone. Recently, my wife went on a date and fell asleep at his apartment. I hadnt heard from her since 10 p.m, she still wasn't home at 6 a.m. My texts went unanswered and my calls went to voicemail. A tight knot of dread lodged in my stomach as I imagined all kinds of dire scenarios and realized that I not only didn't know where she was,I had no idea whom she was with. I pictured myself goin名to the police saying, "I think she's in Red Hook with a guy named Ryan. I don't know his last name, but I think he's a graphic designer?" Im not sure there's actually a word for the unique blend of acute terror and unforgivable shame I felt that morning imagining that Id lost my wife to Ryan, the maybe graphie designer. When she finally texted me at 7:30 am relief coursed through me like morphine. She wrote, I replied, "Just glad you're ok, but next time, no radio silence. Remember: you're not alone. What surprises most people is when I tell them it's not the sex-with-other- men that bothers me. The sex is the easy part, the fun part. It's what the sex connects to, stands for, reveals that can be difficult. I don't want her to fall in love with anyone else, and every time she goes on a date, I confront the possibálity that she might. It happened at the beginning:The first person she dated after we opened up fell hard in love with ber, and my wife, overwhelmed by his ardor, tried to love him back. Watching it happen, I was confused, angry, and terrified that she wanted to leave me She assured me she didn't, and whatever feelings she had for him didnt lessen what she felt for me. Believing her then was the ultimate trust exercise. We survived because eventually I did blieve her, and also This has been the great challenge of my open marriage: to draw strength from vulnerability. Doing so requires supreme self-confidence. You must first love is built. From everywhere comes the message that what I'm doing is for weaklings, losers, failures, p------; that if I had money and status, I could keep my wife "in line"; that her of my self-esteem. My open marriage has made heavy demands on my ability to silence the voice of doubt in my head, that gnawing feeling of worthlessness. But I find I can meet those demands, and that I am able to all possess. I'm grateful to my wife for pushing us to take this leap, and whatever happens to us in the future I would do it all again. And when she comes home tonight and crawls into bed beside me with a hot story about her date with Paulo, she'll do it all again, too. n upon which al the other ny more than the basic dignity we

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Ingway

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Dec 19, 2015 at 11:54AM EST

All i hear is a cuck who is trying to cope with the fact that he has yet to commit suicide.

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shadow_lepus

shadow_lepus

Dec 19, 2015 at 04:49PM EST

These two aren't husband and wife. They're lovers with tax benefits.

Part of me hopes she does leave him for someone else, but even that probably won't change his mind. He'll just think he wasn't feministing hard enough or something.

When did things become so screwed up?

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