Meanwhile, my standards:

• >Has to share most of my interests and core beliefs, not down to the letter, just similar enough that we'd largely agree about how things should be.
• >Can't be an off-the-wall problematic person that's detrimentally destructive to everything around them, including friends and family.
• >I've been alone for so long I don't really care that much about looks anymore.

That is odd that you know more than one incel in person given their lack of IRL social interactions.