Yeah, I was afraid to mention it because it's "spoilers", but it's a decades old book. I have to be re-read Dune, I've almost forgotten everything about it.
The issue of abortion is complex, it's why black and white doesn't work well, and it's an issue beyond just individuals. Well, at least I can agree with that.
I think we all have our own biases, and I'll go in length about them:
I've seen an account of an older woman who remembered seeing her father to plead doctors to save his wife since her pregnancy was killing her, and they only decided to go ahead with the abortion when the Jewish doctor threatened to leave the hospital for forcing "Christian" values on what was supposed to be a secular hospital (Diana Miller was the name). It's not an uncommon story, and is repeated in different media.
My personal experience was a former classmate who got pregnant by her useless boyfriend, and her zealot, abusive, piece of shit parents threatened to retaliate if she got an abortion (even when it was legal). The 'wonderful' community then shit-talked her and was cruel to her, and she was left to struggle, because those judgemental enough to hate abortion are also judgemental about single parents. Men and women, as you say. I still don't like a lot of former classmates because of that. I remembered she was very nice and kind, and unfortunately that made her easy to push around. She's doing as well as she can now, but it was tough.
Funny thing is that may contribute to why I don't like the religious, dislike a lot of ideologues, believe that communities have a responsibility and have a special contempt for virtue signalers, since a lot of former classmates then either went on to preach conservative or progressive values (hypocrites). And this was just with me being a former classmate, someone's who more of an observer than anything, no idea how it would be for those who are close and affected.
Abortion is a right, I don't like people being flippant about this. People's lives are important as well, and the lives of girls can be upended by the issue of abortion, it's not a place for easy moralization. That's all I want to say.