I've always felt that this attitude that "I have gender dysphoria! I need immediate action" is honestly disturbing and needs to stop, now. I don't think these people are really thinking about the consequences of their actions.
I mean, you get idiots who go around and say what I have should have activism and we should have the same rights as transgender people are getting and blah blah blah but honestly I don't really think that what is being disputed here is really the rights of the transgender person themselves, but rather the parents here. I mean, I cannot honestly understand, except out of the most extreme of cases, why a parent would accept, "Yes, lets change my child's gender because they said so!". Is that really your child's opinion or your opinion?
One problem I notice a LOT in this neo-transgender movement is that there's a lot of pressure put on people from the outside to actually be transgender. To put how bad this problem is in perspective, on Pokecommunity I made a thread to ask about an issue I was having; however I obscured the nature of the issue somewhat because I made a thread under a different account about the issue with mixed results from the community. Even though I pointed out no less than three times that my issues had nothing to do with gender, they continually tried to assume that I wasn't the gender I stated I was, claiming everything up the book to "Genderqueer". It was annoying, because my question had nothing to do with being transgender – it was just an experience that many transgender people go through (learning to not feel ashamed of expressing their needs). People should not be under so much pressure to question their gender identity – gender dysphoria isn't exactly something that you aren't unaware of if you have it, after all.
And people are trying to tell me that the parents have absolutely 0 influence on the kids who are claiming they're transgender? Bull fucking shit. We live in the generation where parents are now participating on websites like tumblr and twitter where you can claim your gender is practically anything. It's not surprising to me that all the sudden a bunch of parents are claiming their kid wants to be the opposite sex, and I would not be surprised if a good portion of those are looking for their kids to suggest that.
This isn't even to mention that this shit is very confusing when you're a young teen. Yes, I had issues that started off early like a transgender person. Yes, I knew I was always different. Yes, I wish I had accepted myself earlier. But at the same time, I didn't know for sure what my problems were until I was much older. In the same period I thought I was a transguy and I realized I wasn't one, but if I acted on my urges then, I would regret it deeply later. It turned out my issues I couldn't even fully understand until I was a full functioning adult. Yes, I have to deal with that baggage now and I know there are some things that can never be made up but that's life, unfortunately.
I mean, I had to suck it up, I'll probably have to do that for the rest of my life, it's entirely possible to wait and figure out what's right for you instead of rushing up to the goalpost. Yes it absolutely fucking sucks but what are you going to do about it? I'd rather not make a life changing decision until I know that I'm ready to be able to make that decision.
And I apologize for making this personal, but what am I going to do? There's no transitioning program for me and my problems. There's nothing that I can have that will help improve my battles with non-gender identity disorders. There's nothing I can do other than work with myself as the symptoms intensify. There's fucking NOTHING online, no damn resources, no programs, nothing. Transgender people have a lot of fucking options and they basically have full access by the point they're halfway trough their teens, parents permitting. I apologize for sounding like a douche in advance, but I'm fucking serious – why do these crazy fringe parents act like this can't wait like 5 fucking years? This is how I see this whole thing. They literally have everything at their fingertips, something I would fucking kill for, they have like every other therapist in the nation who will help them out and they're bitching about the fact that they can't start a relatively new and unresearched treatment in minors? Again unless that kid seriously fucking needs it, that is absolute overkill, and half of the time I'm willing to bet the kid doesn't even have a grasp of their own identity yet.
The problem definitely is though when you enter adulthood. I'm not trans but I can say from my personal experiences that my issues did get worse as I got older and more stressed out. But I'd rather know for sure this is my problem as an adult and work with myself later towards some sort of resolution instead of just assuming I have a problem based on a sudden feeling during a very emotionally volatile time in my life.
I mean, I wouldn't care if they were just treating them as the opposite sex, but hormones are doing something to your body. We're honestly still very early on in understanding how that all affects our body. And as a kid, you're more vulnerable to fuck ups than any time in your life.
I mean for fuck's sake unless your kid is trying to rip off their penis or something equally as serious (which most cases are not) I can't think of one good reason why the benefits of having a transgender puberty override the fact that at 10 you don't exactly know yourself at all yet.