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& do you think lying to get out of school is better/worse than lying to get out of work is better/worse than lying to get out of friend/family social events?

I think my dedication to my lies is why no one ever thinks I'm lying. It's like, "nobody would lie about that kind of shit so I'll believe it". This morning I told my boss my dog got bit by another dog and I had to call animal control over it. No problem, take tomorrow off too if he's too hurt to leave alone. That one's pretty bad, even for me I do gotta say, but it's solid. Last time I didn't want to work (which was months ago it's not like I dip out of work every week) I said I had an inner ear infection and the doctor told me not to drive for 24 hours.

I personally think lying is fine to get out of obligations every once in awhile. Every once in awhile. Like almost everything bad for you, the key is moderation, but I appreciate the idea of taking a "personal day" that truly is a personal day. Many businesses offer paid personal days but you're expected to use them to see the doctor or plan for huge family parties and stuff like that, not just sit around and break routine every once in awhile. We know routine and stress are both two significant factors on our health, too. Of course, you should also be a model employee when you're actually at work. The need for personal days is caused by the stress of forced friendly coworker interaction and being efficient in your work, not from slacking off at your stockboy job.

If people keep bugging me to come out to social events night after night (which happens often in university) I'll often just tell them that I'm to busy to go out or I already have plans with other friends. Then I just go home and play vidya or watch anime.

That's probably about the extent of my lying for my own benefit and I don't really do it to often, just when I really don't feel like hanging out with people at a noisy bar and don't want to make it sound like I dislike them (because they are my friends after all). Other than that I don't really lie all that often.

Lying is for losers.
besides trying to avoid annoying conversations with family "how's school?" "good", i never lie, there is no point. I am always 100% honest with everyone, and i expect the same from them. I hate people who lie.

I don't lie.
I have other ways of getting out of things.

I have never lied.

These are exactly the kind of insightful, compelling responses I was hoping for when I made this thread.

I have no problem with lying to get out of doing something I don't want to do. I did it numerous times during my schooling. Would I do the same with a job? I don't think so, but who knows. I mean, let me put it this way. I'm getting paid to do my job. I'm not getting paid to go to school.

I don't feel very comfortable lying, considering it almost always comes back to bite you in the ass in the end.

I hate lying. Some of my lifestyle choices force me to lie though and it's pretty stressful trying to hide everything. I had to come out to my manager about one of these things a week or so ago and it was an absolute nightmare, it's terrifying. I hate it. I wish I could just be open about shit. You can't always do that though.

I'm aight with it. Neither is worse or better really, the only thing that really differs is consequences of missing out in the first place, or being found out on the lie. I think it's aight to do so whenever to really want to or need to, even if it is a bad idea to do so. Is coming from a slacker though.

The only time i get uncomfortable lying is at my parents.

Can't stand lying, good thing I'm not that good at it anyways. If I didn't want to go to a social event I'd just say it. I may not be direct all the times or open, but I try my best.

I could tell a half truth, I could bend the truth, and I can keep a screct but I can't really "tell a lie" in the sense of making stuff up or saying the contrary, and when I do I can't do it very while.

I just can't get myself though the risk of people looking though my poorly made lies against it being worth whatever benefit I get from it.

I have things to hide like everyone else here, but the further I am from saying something I know is true, the less comfortable I am doing it. So I can't imagine myself completely lying about an inner ear infection, and it just might be for the greater good that I can't.

The only time I ever really lie is with my parents to get out of trouble mainly because I'm just done with getting in trouble with them. Hell if I wasn't lying I'd probably never be able to have any fun ever because they're just like that so I'm kind of just protecting myself. Other than with them I don't really lie. Like if a teacher asks "what are you doing" and even if I'm just doing nothing or being bad I'll tell them with complete honesty. And I don't think I've ever lied to my friends either. Maybe if they ask something sensitive I'll say "I don't want to talk about it" and will probably end up telling them pretty soon afterwards when I feel ready.

So yeah just my parents really because that's the kind of relationship we have. As I said I'd have a husk of a childhood if I told them everything not to mention the 2-3 very sensitive things I'm in the closet about. Hell I even mask my personality. Some stranger I meet and talk to for a few minutes probably knows me more than they do. I don't even know why I'm so uncomfortable with them they're not that judgmental or strict it's just I don't feel comfortable with being open at all with them and telling them the complete truth. Sorry if this post isn't completely on topic kind of had to let some steam off and it's kind of relevant.

I prefer to call it "creatively interpreting reality". I find that bending the truth is a lot more effective than making things up entirely; half truths are far more believable than lies, and much easier to remember.

I think lying to get out of a sticky situation is fine so long as it isn't something very important that someone can actually be seriously inconvenienced or hurt over.

I don't like lying. You see, I consider myself a mostly honest person, and only lie in really important cases. a good reason for this is because I've had experience with people who've lied a lot. Mostly, it was people who lied in order to get me off my backs. There were also people who constantly spewed bullshit like "Oh, this is a PS5" or some childish crap like that. I absolutely hate when people say glaringly obvious lies all the time for fun. I just want to punch them (though that might be a bit too far). I have the feeling that people have done that because they see me as gullible or unconfident or something.

All that aside, I wouldn't tell people EVERYTHING about myself. I have my limits.

It all depends on the lie, really and how I feel about the person I'm lying to. It all depends on the situation and the mood I'm in. But, I don't mind lying, I just got to get the lie embedded into my brain and constantly remember that's my story if someone brings it up. But, I hardly need to lie. I'm a very open person. I have nothing to hide, so I don't need to really lie.

I only tend to lie to my family or to some friends. Mostly, if I get tired of talking or feel uncomfortable with something. I, also, usually lie to my mom and brother on how I'm feeling. Sometimes, I just don't want them worrying about me.

I guess lying is okay, to a degree. But, when it's full on bull shitting, then that stuff just pisses me off. Look, if you don't want to go or do something, just tell me. Don't tell me a fucking story. Look, I know you want to be and feel cool, but when I can obviously see through you, then you need to work on your lying skills. Especially if you inconsistent.

Truthfully, I despised being lied to. Yes, I lie too and it's kind of hypocritical of me, but I've always been bull shitted on my entire life. I'm tired of of lies. If it's a small one, it's alright. But, when it fucking gets to the point where you make people and stuff up, you fucking piss me off. My dad did it, my old school friends used to do it, hell I know some users on this site that've done it or still doing it.

I hate being misinformed. And if a really good friend pulls that shit on me, even a family member, I'm gonna start thinking about our relationship and wondering if I should just break it off.

But, you know, society is built on lies and such. Sometimes it's for the "greater good" or to "protect people". But, shit hits the fan once it comes out. And, I know many people, not only me, hate being lied to.

You guys are all a lot more morally conflicted than I expected.

I don't think I've ever really gotten into trouble because of it so that's why it's my default strategy.
If it ain't broke don't fix it yadda yadda.

Work is the only place I really have to lie to because my family has no sense of privacy/boundaries/etc and we'll just say what we have to say, and I always wanna go out so it's not like I ever need to get out of it.

Honestly, a lot more comfortable than I really should be. I lie in nearly every bad situation I end up in, but to be fair most of the time I lie in a way that doesn't really result in any further problems, heck if anything the reason why I lie is to kind of calm things down or end it.

However I won't lie for something like say I was supposed to pay for a dinner, but say I forgot my debit card at home, that's just plain selfish.

I'm absolutely awful at lying so I gave up and speak nothing but the blunt truth now. People appreciate that.

I am really quite comfortable with lying, but I never tell a lie that will hurt someone (exceptions being a lie that that is less harmful from the truth). I don't really lie for personal gain either, its more of a way to avoid certain truths.

I don't like to say it but I enjoy it. I will sometimes make up a lie that isn't really bad or anything, like "I once met the guy who voiced Master Chief at the airport." just for fun. But I rarely do it.