Imallexx Abuse Allegations by Alice Hez

Overview

Imallexx Abuse Allegations by Alice Hez refers to accusations that YouTuber Alex Elmslie, aka Imallexx, allegedly physically, verbally and emotionally abused his ex-girlfriend Alice Hez while they were in a relationship. The allegations were made by Hez in June 2024 and detailed in an 82-page Google Doc, which includes evidence of the purported abuse through texts, photographs and video recordings, including recordings of Discord calls between the two in which Elmslie allegedly threatens Hez. As the accusations spread, several of Elmslie's collaborators and friends cut ties with him and made statements denouncing his actions and further exposing his problematic behavior. Purportedly, Hez reported Elmslie's abuse to the police. Two days after Hez made her allegations, another ex-girlfriend, Kingani, released a statement also detailing she and Elmslie's toxic relationship.

Background

Imallexx, real name Alex Elmslie, is a commentary YouTuber with over 400,000 subscribers on YouTube.^[5]

On April 15th, 2024, TikToker^[1] and influencer Alice Hez (@alice_hez), ex-girlfriend of YouTuber Alex Elmslie, posted a selfie video captioned, "when it's so bad u don't get jealous of the next girl u just wanna save her," garnering over 330,000 views in two months (shown below). On April 19th, she posted a slideshow video to TikTok^[2] consisting of a screenshot of an Apple note reading, "My standards, don't fucking abuse me," garnering over 130,000 views in two months.

On June 9th, X^[3] user @Saammuel reuploaded a screenshot of the latter video, along with a reupload of a video by another TikToker hypothesizing that Hex is talking about Elmslie. The X poster writes, "[…] people who've seen this have jumped at it being about Alex without her actually stating it as so and taken this as fact that ImAllexx is abusive. At the time of this tweet nothing else has been stated or made public and these are just Alice's experiences." The post gained around 75 likes in eight days.

On June 11th, 2024, X^[4] user @Saammuel posted a follow-up to the situation, writing, "Alice Hez has confirmed that the allegations of Abuse are against commentary YouTuber ImAllexx and that she will eventually speak more on this," garnering over 110 likes in a week. The post includes a video scrolling through TikTok comments in which Hez explicitly says, "Yes. It was him," in response to a commenter telling her to say his name rather than cryptically post about it (shown below).

Alice Hez has confirmed that the allegations of Abuse are against commentary YouTuber ImAllexx and that she will eventually speak more on this. Up until now she had just liked comments mentioning Alex in regards to this. pic.twitter.com/2yjWKN6Soo

— Saammuel (@Saammuel) June 11, 2024

Developments

On June 11th, 2024, YouTuber^[6] Luhrix had X user @Saammuel call into his stream, during which they discussed the allegations. According to Saamuel, he reached out to Hez and she claimed that police were involved in the situation. Saamuel also allegedly reached out to iNabber, another YouTuber and former roommate of Elmslie, who allegedly claimed that Elmslie was dodging his questions (shown below).

On June 12th, a thread was started on the subreddit /r/youtubedrama^[7] detailing the allegations thus far, garnering over 290 upvotes in five days.

Alice Hez's Statement

On June 15th, 2024, Alice Hez made a post to X^[8] (@Malice_Hez) sharing a Google Drive^[9] folder, which included links to an 82-page Google Doc^[10] and several video clips, in which she details the alleged abuse by Elmslie and provides evidence of the abuse. The document begins:

This is a sensitive subject for me, as I have struggled to figure out how to put it into words.
I have been threatened by Alex to not come out with anything at all and to keep quiet, or he will create a contradicting story to discredit my own but I'm not scared anymore. No matter what is said in response to the statement, I know I've said my piece and can move on with my life.

In the document, Hez claims she and Elmslie started dating on March 17th, 2023, after knowing each other for years. She writes about the start of their problems that, "Alex felt that because I am home all day and work from home that I would be able to call 24/7 and completely shut out any other social interactions I have with my friends." She adds that he would start shouting at her over Discord calls and told her "to self harm" at one point. She then shares a collection of alleged texts from Elmslie in which he calls her "stupid," "retarded," an "idiot" and generally berates her and speaks to her manipulatively (examples shown below).

Following the screenshots, she writes, "After screaming at me in calls and disregarding everything I have ever said he would explain how it is always my fault and that I should apologize, that I should fix it and fight for him after he has made it worse by completely dehumanizing and degrading me." She writes that he would threaten to break up with her because she "interacted with [her] followers' tweets." She then writes, "I found later on he was still interacting with many people he had old relations with, and found him stalking his ex with her old nudes in his phone."

Herz goes on to share more abusive text messages from Elmslie (examples shown below, click to expand), writing, "I have depression and he made it severely worse when he would insult me and make me feel like he doesn't care or love me. I found it hard to stay happy everyday dating someone who said these things so easily to me, feeling no remorse or guilt."

For additional context, she adds, "Alex had a very big issue with me when I sounded sad. If I woke up upset after I explained to him that I'm depressed, I had to calmly approach him and watch my tone when I couldn't even get out of bed."

Following further screenshots, Hez writes:

I changed myself by suppressing my emotions and that I was not upset over previous arguments because he would get angry and tell me to get over it.
He would tell me “I said sorry so you would shut up”. These were one sided narcissistic arguments, telling me my feelings mean nothing and that they are based on wank. But when he is upset, I get spammed in my messages and 100 insults until I say sorry, no matter who was at fault. He would tell me he can change my life forever. That I need him and that I am nothing without him and what he does for me. He took out anger from his friends on me, telling me “I can do everything I want, alone, without any of you”.

Work related arguments would be weekly, nearly daily if I showed signs of me being sad over something he said to me. “You should be fucking greatful that as someone with this expertise I actually have, tried to talk to you about something like that”. This was him talking about whether I wanted to stream or make YouTube videos. If the conversation didn't go his way or I said I didn’t want to do a certain thing he would blow up and get upset because I wouldn’t do it his way, then continue to belittle me. I would always tell him I'm not with him for work talk, I don't care how much you can help me if all this will do is cause arguments.

After sharing a string of text messages detailing these arguments, she writes, "I said I wanted to stream on Twitch, and he gave me reasons why it wouldn't work and reasons not to. I got sad because I was planning so much, set up my channel – went to him all happy about doing my own thing and he devalued it and called me small brained." She shares further screenshots of texts detailing the argument (shown below).

Hez writes that Elmslie told her to "shut up" and kill herself after telling him it was a dream of hers to expand into other platforms. She then writes that he called her the "N-word" after she apologized for the situation, writing, "He would tell me to die constantly, told me that he didn’t want me and that he could easily replace me." She said:

Again, another argument about content creation, he goes “It’s easy to sit there like everyone else and cry about it when you're a jobless freak, imagine trying to teach ret**ds like you and my mates how to do this”.
I would reply by explaining how he was rude and that I got offended, he goes on to say
“Ni*** that's the truth” and “Kill yourself, I just told you how to make 6 figures so fuck off”. I told him how I don’t think I am good enough to do it and he would just insult me more.

Next, Hez writes that they went on holiday together to Italy in July 2023. She states that she opened up to him about trauma after they watched a video about a girl being hypersexual after trauma. Elmslie allegedly told her he "doesn’t want to know what has been done to [her] by other guys." She then shares a DM between the two where he accuses her of "ruining" their first holiday by "bringing up weird shit" (shown below).

Hez writes that Elmslie canceled visiting her for her birthday to go see Star Wars. He ended up showing up at her place with a gift at midnight, then "invalidated" her feelings after she got upset about it. She alleges that she was helping him move homes at the time and he assumed she would move in with him without asking. She tells him she was scared to move in with him because of how he treats her, then shares messages of the argument in which he tells her to "die in a hole" (shown below, left).

She then shares a message sent after she said she was going to bed in which he purportedly tells her "I'm going to fucking kill you" and "I'm going to break your neck" (shown below, right).

Hez and Elmslie ended up moving in together and she says that the fighting "became even worse." She writes that on their fourth day of living together, on October 19th, 2023, he got into a physical fight with her. She writes:

It started as a screaming argument where I begged him to leave me alone and to just stop. I ended up trying to get away from him and he followed me. I went to walk downstairs and he grabbed my hood and pulled me back until I fell on the floor.

He told me that I'm not getting away so I got up and made a run for the bathroom. He gets in my way and grabs me, puts me in a headlock and covers my mouth because I'm screaming for him to get off of me. I got to the bathroom and locked it behind me and he screams from the other side calling me crazy. Telling me to leave the house after I've asked him to leave me alone.

Some other days after that argument he would scream in my face telling me to kill myself multiple times, in arguments, over small things. He would walk away then come back angry as if he couldn't leave without screaming, having me back down and be silent until I broke down. This evolved to the point where I would be shaking and scared for my life every time he came close or was in the same room as me whilst arguing. He still blamed me for our arguments and to get back at me he started with small petty things, like breaking my glasses without me knowing and throwing them away in the trash. He even helped me go look for them, pretending he was innocent until I finally suspected he did indeed throw them away and he laughed whilst admitting doing so, acting like it wasn’t a big deal.

I ended up feeling detached from reality because I woke up depressed daily, some days I didn't want to be near him or be intimate with him, and this would spark arguments and he would get angry at me for still being upset over something he had done a day or a few days before. I was so disgusted by him and his actions towards me I didn't want him to even be near my own cat, calling him HIS when he wasn't and making shitty jokes about taking the cat away from me, this would always just end in me picking up Bear and leaving the room.

He ended up being secretive over his phone to what I then discovered was him stalking his ex on all social platforms (it's been years since they broke up) and found her old NSFW pictures he kept of her. He said sorry and that was it.

She then writes that on December 28th, 2023, she decided she would "no longer put up with his behavior." She states that she was cleaning the kitchen because his parents were coming over for dinner and he thought she was mad at him and started screaming at her. She asked him to wipe the kitchen counters and take out the trash and he started screaming, telling her he "can't handle more than one [task] at a time." She then claims he kicked her in the back as she walked out of the kitchen and shares texts where they talk about the kick (shown below).

Hez claims she texted a friend to pick her up and she started packing as he followed her around the house screaming, trying to justify his actions. She recorded it out of fear he would hit her again. She writes that he was following her around calling her the N-word. She then shares photos of a broken television screen and writes:

After I left, I later picked up my things after he threatened to throw them outside (a 4k+ setup). I found everything on the floor and taken apart. The keyboard was smashed and scattered everywhere. He claimed the keys had fallen off of my keyboard when he was packing it all away. When I got home and plugged everything in, I found the monitor screens were both smashed to bits, the keyboard broken and the camera too.

Hez writes that after the relationship, he kept trying to manipulate her, begged her to give him another chance and insisted that he'd change. He kept trying to get her back in the house. Hez ended up blocking him as he wouldn't stop messaging her. She writes:

Eventually he tells me I deserve better and gets all sorry for himself after he realizes I'm actually not coming back. He sends me apologies and owns up to everything he's ever done to me in voice notes and videos crying whilst still begging me for a phone call so he can talk or move on.
I don’t and won’t ever want to give him that. After I explained to him how he was abusive, he claimed that I was abusive too, to try and spark a reaction as afterwards he said "I'm joking?" and "I don't mean it like that" "You didn’t wrong me like I did you, I know that.” He continuously begged me to call him so he can apologise and wanted me to forgive him. He ended up sending things to my house like teddy bears and flowers, his hoodie that had been sprayed heavily with his aftershave and letter to try and achieve this. He mentions “I wish you had broken up with me to my face” I did. When I walked out the door with my things after he kicked me.

She then shares multiple images of texts in which Elmslie purportedly begs for her to come back and apologizes for his actions, along with images of a handwritten note apologizing, gifts he sent her. She writes that there's "so much more" she could talk about and calls their relationship "awful and toxic," admitting she should have left earlier. She writes:

In no way am I trying to make myself look as if I never said anything mean, I went through months of this horrible treatment that words like these became the normal for when arguments came about, words held no weight towards the end. I stooped down to his level and became reckless with my language to try to prove a point of ‘this is how you treat me so have it back’. I was pushed to the point to react and I'm so sad it got to that toxic point. But the extent this went with him saying death threats and physical acts was too far […] I understood he has his own mental health struggles but it would and will never excuse the amount of trauma he put me through.

Hez then writes that she's had " threats of story manipulation from Alex" and shares screenshots to "clear all of these up before he gets the chance to try and victimize himself and disregard everything he's done to me" (shown below).

She writes about an argument when she told him to "stop saying weird things to the cat." She claims he was joking about taking him away and claims he threatened to break the cat's neck. She then claims he says she punched him in the face over the cat, calling it "delusional" and claims it never happened, sharing screenshots of texts relating to this (shown below).

She writes, "There are so many cases where I end up taking Bear into another room. Saying that taking the cat off him is starting an argument when I only did it after he said weird things to him. Acts like a child had his toy taken away when realistically I was uncomfortable with him being near my cat after saying what he does."

Finally, she ends the Doc by writing, "For legal and obvious reasons I won't attach all the evidence I have, but in due time it may be made public. He has tried to get me to stay quiet online and has suggested he would deny all of this, if this happens I will release more undeniable evidence."

Video Clips

The Drive folder also included six video clips and one audio clip, largely consisting of recordings of Elmslie and Hez's arguments. These clips began to go viral on social media following their release.

For example, on June 15th, 2024, the day the Doc was released, X^[11] user @luxcurv shared a clip of Elmslie saying he's going to bash Hez's head against a wall, garnering over 24,000 likes in two days (shown below). On the same day, X^[12] user @_just_lexi_ shared a clip of Elmslie calling Hez the N-word, garnering over 5,000 likes in the same span of time.

ImAllexx threatening his ex-girlfriend:

“I’m going to bash your head against a wall with a brick if you don’t shut the f*** up” pic.twitter.com/hF8CdiFsVG

— Luxe ⟡ (@luxcurv) June 15, 2024

Kingani's Statement

On June 17th, 2024, YouTuber Kingani posted a Google Doc^[13] to X,^[14] writing, "my experience with imallexx."

In the Doc, Kingani claims she and Elmslie dated between June 2017 and March 2018 and writes that it was the "most toxic relationship [she's] ever been in." She writes they were never apart longer than a week and that their relationship was largely long-distance, as she is American and he is English.

She writes that during the relationship, Elmslie made her "feel insane" and that it "never felt like he listened" to her. She claims he would talk over her when they recorded videos together and that he always made everything about himself and his own issues. She also states he would threaten suicide over minor conflicts to stop her from arguing. She writes:

Another thing he did was spin his own narrative and twist words. He didn't just do this in the relationship, but he did it in his work and with his friends. It was the main reason why many people stopped talking to him. Because we started to realize that when there was even the smallest amount of drama – and he heard about it – he would make sure to involve himself. Even if the subject had absolutely nothing to do with him, and he would just make everything so much worse.

She then writes about the "Slazo situation," referring to the 2019 abuse allegations against YouTuber Slazo that were determined to be false, which Imallexx, and purportedly, Kingani, pushed, writing:

Though it was never said in the original statements by Chey, he somehow came to the conclusion that it was r*pe, and everyone else got the blame for saying his words. Somehow the situation went from being guilty of being a bad boyfriend, to all of a sudden he's a r*pist. This was the final nail in the coffin, and I cut all contact with him after that.

She writes that he only ever laid a finger on her to grab her after she was trying to run from a conflict when they were recording a video together. He purportedly started shouting at her and "beathing his fist on the table" and broke his microphone. She got up to leave and he grabbed her arm.

Online Reactions

The allegations went viral in the days following Hez releasing the Doc, inspiring reactions on social media, along with memes.

Friends, Collaborators, Talent Agency Cut Ties With Imallexx

Some of Elmslie's close friends, collaborators and purported ex-roommates cut ties with him. On June 16th, 2024, X^[15] user @nicholasdeorio posted screenshots of an Instagram Story from memeulous in which he cuts ties with Elmslie, also sharing screenshots of iNabber and Jake Baz, other friends of Elmslie, disavowing him through Instagram Stories (shown below, left, right, center).

On June 17th, the same X^[16] user shared a screenshot of an Instagram Story by miaxmon, the girlfriend of YouTuber WillNE, claiming that Imallexx's talent agency cut ties with him (shown below). On June 18th, the X^[17] user shared a screenshot of an Instagram Story from georgeclarkeey, a former roommate of imallexx, disavowing him (shown below, right).

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