I don't like any, but usually the mindset is that the viewer self inserts as the boy in both occasions, so in the first they imagine themselves as the boy getting a big ara ara and they think everything is fine, but in the second they finally notice the problem.
As long as it's just 2D fictional characters I don't care, nobody is getting hurt, but the second you think this shit is fine in real life I am calling the police and Chris Hansen.

Both should be considered predatory tbh