About

Are We Dating The Same Guy?, also abbreviated as AWDTSG, refers to a series of social media pages and groups across Facebook and Reddit where women share screenshots of men's dating profiles they matched to seek the opinion of other women who may have dated the same man in the past or are currently dating. The first group was created on Facebook in March 2022, amassing more than 3 million members across many different groups. The groups expanded to other social platforms in 2025 and are all moderated by volunteers, spawning a series of debates regarding uncovering cheating, violence and any tea on a possible partner. The many AWDTSG groups also sparked debates regarding the authenticity of some of the claims shared about the men exposed, leading to lawsuits and backlash.

History

The Washington Post^[1] suggests the likely origin of the Are We Dating The Same Guy?^[2] groups date back to March 2022 after the West Elm Caleb incident went viral, which centered around an alleged serial dater who dated and ghosted a significant amount of women in New York City via the online dating app Hinge (AWDTSG group description on Facebook is seen below)

According to the article, the AWDTSG groups began to appear within a few months after other women shared details about similar experiences with the serial dater. The group was created on Facebook and "sought to operate with a 'Fight Club'-like covertness; a primary rule of membership in the groups was not to talk about the groups," the Washington Post explained.

As of March 20th, 2025, the AWDTSG movement also inspired an official website^[3] and application dedicated to "help women navigate the dating landscape by providing resources, real experiences, and a strong community that looks out for one another," as the site details.

Lawsuits

On September 12th, 2024, the News 5 Cleveland YouTube^[4] channel uploaded a video telling the story of a man who sued Meta over the Are We Dating the Same Guy Facebook group. The video (seen below) amassed more than 38,000 views and 732 likes in a year.

On March 21st, 2024, FOX 11 Los Angeles^[5] uploaded a similar story of a man who sued women for defamation, libel, sex-based discrimination and other allegations, "over bad reviews in a Facebook group." The video (seen below) received more than 10,000 views and 220 likes in a year.

Online Presence

AWDTSG groups have grown in prominence since 2022, spawning local and specific groups based on specific states, cities and other regions across the United States.

The movement notably sparked debate and memes on social media in the 2020s, as X^[6] user @solomonmissouri posted on September 5th, 2024, comprised of a tweet replying to another user questioning why "women so secretive about who they are dating." The reply (seen below) amassed over 442,000 views and 8,200 likes in seven months.

The group also inspired debates on Reddit, frequently by men who were either exposed by someone in an AWDTSG group or had negative opinions about the movement.

For instance, on March 13th, 2025, Redditor^[7] u/Creme-Fit shared his experience after being "posted in one of those 'are we dating the same guy?' Facebook groups." The post claims an ex-girlfriend fabricated a screenshot from a random Instagram account to accuse the guy of cheating on his current girlfriend. The post amassed over 6,200 upvotes and 550 comments in a week.

On April 18th, 2023, TikTok^[8] user @nata_topi posted a meme about finding out about a guy they've been dating was posted in one of the AWDTSG groups. The post (seen below) amassed more than 677,000 plays and 76,000 likes in two years.

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