Pillow Princess (Slang)

About

Pillow Princess is a slang term referring to a female who enjoys the act of receiving pleasure from sexual intercourse but does not like to give it out, with the most common definition being given of a "dead starfish" specifically in a lesbian relationship. The term has been in colloquial use within the LGBTQ+ community for decades before emerging into mainstream online lexicon starting around 2019.

Origin

The origin of the term comes from LGBTQ+ circles prior to wider internet adoption. The exact first use online is unknown, but it was added to Urban Dictionary on December 29th, 2005, by the user FriarPablo,^[1] giving it a definition that fit the generally accepted usage of it at the time of a woman, usually in a lesbian relationship, who is a lazy lover (shown below). The definition received over 1,900 likes in roughly 17 years.

Spread

The term began to spread online slowly as LGBTQ culture continued to blend itself with mainstream internet culture during the 2010s, with memes referencing Pillow Princesses appearing as early as 2019. On June 1st, 2019, on the first day of LGBTQ Pride Month, the website Me.Me^[2] scraped a meme originally from a now-deleted Instagram^[4] post of two bunnies laying down next to each other with a caption calling them both "Lesbian Pillow Princesses," being similar to the They Were Both Bottoms meme (shown below).

Later that year, another meme that called out Pillow Princesses was uploaded to the /r/actuallesbians subreddit. The post, utilizing the Am I A Joke To You? meme, had multiple callouts of Pillow Princesses for depicting a lesbian who had long nails, as it is both stereotypical and practical to have short, neat nails. The post, uploaded on November 13th, 2019, by Redditor kittydiebot,^[3] went on to gain over 3,200 upvotes in two years (shown below).

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