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We Listen, We Don't Judge is a TikTok trend and internet challenge that grew out of South Africa in 2024. The challenge involves a group or pair of people taking turns to reveal their secrets, with everyone repeating the phrase, "We listen, we don't judge," after each confession. The trend gained traction in the United States in November 2024.

Origin

One of the earliest "We Listen, We Don't Judge" videos was posted to Instagram^[1] by user @thestanlley1 on April 21st, 2024. The humorous sketch shows a group of friends taking turns to reveal their secrets, all while reluctantly repeating the phrase, "We listen, we don't judge." The post gathered over 9 million views and 900,000 likes in seven months.

Spread

The trend began to gain traction on TikTok^[2] in November 2024, with @livinglavidalalaa posting a We Listen, We Don't Judge video with her group of lesbian friends on November 21st, gathering over 9.8 million plays and 1.7 million likes in two weeks.

Also on November 21st, 2024, TikToker^[3] @larobenz posted a We Listen, We Don't Judge video featuring her and her husband, where he admits to faking body aches to get out of doing work, and she admits to blaming their baby for her farts. The video gathered over 19 million plays and 2.4 million likes in two weeks.

On November 23rd, TikToker^[4] @daveandjanie posted a We Listen, We Don't Judge video that gathered over 37 million views and 2 million in two weeks. The married couple shared how they fake their headaches and hide in the bathroom when the house is too chaotic.

On November 24th, 2024, TikToker^[5] @mariadosshill posted a We Listen, We Don't Judge video where they talked about their "weird" habits, gathering over 31 million plays and 4 million likes in a week.

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